Ever Wonder How You Got Through That?

In all honesty, I have led a pretty wonderful life.  My parents are awesome.  I got to attend college.  I married my high school sweetheart.  I landed my dream job.  I have two wonderful kids.  Not that I am bragging.
So when Hurricane Katrina hit in 2005, the storm did more than destroy my City.  For the first time, I had no direction and was surrounded by a sea of uncertainty.  Enter panic.  The next year of my life was spent restoring a sense of normalcy for me and my 6 month old daughter (how I escaped postpartum depression after seeing the tattered nursery we had meticulously planned is beyond me).
Looking back, it was the absolute hardest thing I have ever done and could not have survived without anti depression medication if it weren’t for the shoulders of my extended family.  With all of us (which counted about 20) in one trailer at a campground in Shreveport, we played card games and made dinner as a family which made dealing with depression, change and uncertainty so much easier.  We were all in the same boat but thanked God each night that we were all safe.
While Katrina took many things away, she gave us a lot, too.  Our family grew even closer, I discovered a sense of courage I never knew existed, and a renewed a sense of pride and unity in New Orleans.  Have you had a similar experience?  What was your silver lining?

Six Years Ago, I Learned….

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Images I took Post-Katrina

……a Hurricane named Katrina had destroyed my City.

I learned what hitting rock bottom feels like.  On the other hand, I learned how strong I really am.  I learned humility as I stood in line for food stamps.  I learned that family is everything and friendship knows no boundaries.  I learned that quietly crying with your spouse in a hotel bathroom so as to not wake your 6 month old baby can threaten to tear apart your world, but only makes it stronger.  I learned that shouting “Who Dat!” is so much more than a football chant and proudly wearing black and gold is a symbol of unity.

Six years ago today, my life changed forever.  But believe it or not….it changed for the better.  Today, I remember the struggles of my neighbors, my family, my friends and my City as we continue to rebuild New Orleans.

Last Bus Out Book: Review and Giveaway

For those of you who have been fans of  Experimental Mommy for awhile now, you are likely aware that Bridgette and I both live in the New Orleans area and survived the major catastrophe Hurricane Katrina.  Five years later, most conversations that take place are still peppered with the phrase, “Before The Storm” or “After the Storm.”  Katrina damage is still visible in many parts of the New Orleans Metro area, and her emotional scars run deep in anyone who lived through it.  You can read a bit about Bridgette’s Katrina Experience here. My experience, although not as severe as Bridgette’s, is not something I like to think about.   My grandfather evacuated his home of over 40 years and came home to nothing but a pile of rubble where his home once stood, washed away by the storm surge.  My house was spared aside from needing a new roof, but we were away from home and without power for 20 days.   When I do think about Katrina, I try to remember to not dwell on the inconveniences I went through, or the horrible uprooting many of my friends and grandfather suffered through, but to think instead of what it was like for those who had nowhere else to go, and when it was over, nothing to come home to.

Beck McDowell

Author and New Orleans native Beck McDowell does great  justice to the most unfortunate victims of the storm in her new book, Last Bus Out. McDowell tells the riveting true story of Courtney Miles, who rescued over 300 people from misery in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina.  Growing up in the Fischer Housing Projects in New Orleans, hardship came second nature to Courtney, who grew up surrounded by blight, poverty, and pain.  Despite having a mother who spent most of Courtney’s life in and out of jail for selling drugs, Courtney managed to stay “straight” and avoid the downfalls that cost many of his friends and relatives their livelihood, or even their lives.  McDowell’s book outlines the track of Katrina in the days leading up to its landfall, and describes with great detail just how grim the days after Katrina were for some residents of the New Orleans area.  With the help of his Fischer Family, Courtney devised a plan to borrow a school bus in order to taxi a number of hungry, dehydrated, and miserable Fischer residents to shelter and safety in the Lafayette, Louisiana Cajundome.  After the rescue, McDowell outlines the next chapter in Courtney’s life, which is still in progress today.

Courtney Miles, whose story is told beautifully in Last Bus Out

I have to make an effort to find time to read nowadays, but found reading this book to be effortless.  Although I have background knowledge of the City of New Orleans and Katrina, I didn’t find that to be my “hook” into the book….that was Courtney Miles himself, with what McDowell describes to be his gentle, determined personality.  When I finished the book (in 2 days because I couldn’t put it down), I could not wait to go online and find out where Courtney is now and how he is faring after the storm.  Thankfully, McDowell recently gave and update on the Facebook page for Last Bus Out.  It is my hope and prayer that one day, Courtney will be able to reach all the goals he has set for himself.

Last Bus Out is available as paperback and E-Book at Amazon and Barnes and Noble.    If your local bookstore doesn’t have it, ask for it!   This is a book you must read and then pass along to everyone you know.  We are thrilled that Beck McDowell has offered to give one away to a lucky reader!  The winner can choose either a paperback or E-book !  Here’s how to enter:

How to Enter:

1. Check out Last Bus Out and let me know why it piques your interest!

Additional entries:

1. Blog about this giveaway and link to The Not-So-Blog and Last Bus Out (10 extra entries).

2. Follow me (@BridgetteLA) and @BeckMcDowell on Twitter and Tweet this giveaway. Every time you tweet you get an additional entry! Unlimited! (You must have over 50 Twitter followers to qualify for unlimited entries!)

3. Subscribe to my blog.

4. Become a Fan of The Not-So-Blog and Last Bus Out on Facebook.

5. Place my blog button on your sidebar.

Contest ends at 11:59pm CST on March 31st. Prizes not claimed in 72 hours will be forfeited. Open to U.S. Residents only.

This review is the opinion of Jennifer of The Experimental Mommy. Other may have a different experience with the product. Thank you to Beck McDowell for supplying the product for review. All opinions remain 100% mine.

Hope Remains Five Years Later

My blog, Experimental Mommy, just passed it’s second birthday.  As the site grows, I have had the privilege of traveling with the purpose of meeting bloggers, connecting with brands and honing my skills.  Most of the round table discussions begin with each person in attendance standing up and stating their name, blog name and where they come from.  It generally goes something like this:

Hi!  My name is Bridgette.  I blog at Experimental Mommy which is mainly a product review site with a scientific twist.  I am a Native New Orleanian and live with my husband and two daughters.”

And then it happens….I am answered with “the look.”  You know the look of which I am speaking….squinty sympathetic eyes, a meek smile, the head slightly cocked to the right, and a small nod as if to say, “Oh, I’m so sorry, honey.”  I have grown to become accustom to this look as I know the wearers mean no harm.  They are genuinely concerned for what happened to My City that fateful day nearly five years ago.  “The look” is almost always followed by “the question.”

“Are you still living in New Orleans?”

In my head, the answer goes something like this:

“Why yes, I do still live in New Orleans.  Why on Earth would I leave?  Where else could I sit outside while eating a beignet at midnight and listening to a lively brass band play “When the Saints Go Marching In?”  Where else could I take a steamboat ride on the Mississippi while sipping sweet tea and eating crawfish etouffee?  Where else could I walk down the street and see ten friends, three family members and our priest who all inquire “How’s your Mom and n’em’?”  Where else can I take my kids to a Mardi Gras parade, stand on the neutral ground and immerse them in the rich culture that is my City?”

But most of the time, I just smile and say, “Of course!  It’s great!  You should visit some time!”

Fleeing the Storm

My home, my place of business, my car and my city were destroyed in Hurricane Katrina, but my spirit, my courage and my resilience were not.  Watching New Orleans fill with water from a hotel room in Shreveport, LA was no easy task.  Seeing my street on CNN was surreal.  But there was never a moment when my husband and I talked about not returning to our beloved city.  It was a matter of when we would return instead of if we would return.  Believe it or not, Hurricane Katrina brought out some good qualities in our city and it’s people.  I found strength within myself that I never knew existed.  I learned the generosity of friends, family and strangers could touch your soul.  I learned humility while standing in line for food stamps because we didn’t know when our next paycheck would arrive.  And I learned that the culture and history of New Orleans meant more to me than ever.  We just could not turn our back on the City.

I think Cowboy Mouth said it best in their song “The Avenue

And the marching bands will roll.  I’ll find my City in my Soul.  Because I plan on growing old on The Avenue.

I stay because New Orleans is a part of me.  It is in my soul.  Saying that I am from Nashville, Houston, or Atlanta, just isn’t………right.  I’m a New Orleanian.  I am resilient.  I am proud.  My City, my family, my soul is worth fighting for….how could I abandon it?  As soon as we were allowed back, we rolled up our sleeves, made some sweet tea, checked on our neighbors and started to rebuild our City even better than before.

Hope remains.

Five years (and one oil spill) later, I am proud to report that New Orleans is open for business.  There is evidence of progress around every corner largely because of the spirit of the natives and generosity of volunteers.  I have been fortunate enough to work with one of those companies that truly has made a difference in our area, Tide.  A few short weeks after Hurricane Katrina sank our City, Tide rolled in with the Loads of Hope truck housing 32 energy-efficient washer and dryers.  Volunteers washed, dried and folded clothes (up to 300 loads a day!) for the victims of the Storm for FREE.  In a City where many people were suddenly homeless, this was a priceless service.  Since Katrina, Tide Loads of Hope has traveled the country to help people in need.  From the floods in Nashville to the Red River flooding in Fargo, from the path of Hurricane Ike to the fires in San Diego, Tide Loads of Hope has washed over 30,000 loads of laundry for victims of natural disasters.

I am happy to announce that Tide Loads of Hope will be celebrating their Fifth Anniversary here in New Orleans at the Mahalia Jackson Theater with a FREE concert by the new Tide Loads of Hope Ambassador, Faith Hill!  The concert will be held on Tuesday, August 24th at 8pm and tickets can be won on the following radio stations:

WNOE  -  (101.1  New Orleans), WLMG – (101.9  New Orleans), WYNK – (101.5  Baton Rouge), WYPY – (100.7  Baton Rouge), KRVE – (96.1  Baton Rouge), WTQT-FM  (94.9  Baton Rouge), KMDL – (97.3  Lafayette), WJKK – (98.7  Jackson), WUSJ –  (96.3  Jackson), WZKX – (107.9  Biloxi)

Do you have your own story of courage and resilience?  How have you dealt with and overcome tragedy in your own life?  What would you do if a natural disaster destroyed your life?  Share your thoughts at the Hope Remains blog carnival over at Story Bleed!

Every Hurricane has a Silver Lining, right?

August 29, 2009 marks the 4 year anniversary of Hurricane Katrina for New Orleanians.  Driving the streets of the City, there is progress around every turn.  But do you know what the biggest sign of recovery is for me?  I didn’t even realize the anniversary was tomorrow.

The year after Katrina, I felt like I grieved the entire month of August.  I dreaded the anniversary of the Storm because I knew the emotions I safely tucked away would come flooding  back (pun intended).  And they did.  Big time.  But as each year passes, I find myself being less reflective over the past and more excited about the future of my City, my family and my LIFE.

I still feel it necessary to do some small reflection of the event, but this year, I think I will focus on the POSITIVE.  Don’t look shocked….there actually was SOME positives of Hurricane Katrina.

1.  Humility.  Being an educated woman, I NEVER (even in a million years) thought I would be standinfoodstampsg in line for food stamps or a free hot meal.  My degree was supposed to shield me from these types of things, right?  Wrong.  If I ever judged someone standing in front of me at the grocery who pulled out a food stamp card, or turned my head away from the homeless, I am truly sorry.  Shit happens.  I learned that 4 years ago.
2.  Courage. As I watched our City drown from a hotel many miles away, I felt utterly helpless.  All my husband and I could do was sort through the facts and start to pick up the pieces of our lives.  We had to press on and start over.  We HAD to.  And we did.  Now that I look back at what we went through, I am shocked I managed to get through it unmedicated. LOL!  I learned so much about the strength I have inside of me.  You know how when you work out REAL hard at the gym for the FIRST time and you wake up the next morning with sore muscles you never knew existed?  I discovered courage, strength and bravery within that I didn’t know I possessed.  Cool.

3.  Kitchen Cabinets. I got new kitchen cabinets.  Seriously, I HATED my old ones and was half glad they flooded.  I have pretty green ones now.  But I still can’t cook.

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4.  The Spirit of Volunteerism. When we came home for the first time, it literally looked like a bomb went off….a wet bomb.  But despite the fact that everyone had work to do on their own homes, people walked up and down our block asking if anyone needed water, food or just a helping hand.  Major companies came from inside their corporate offices to get into the streets and work with the residents in any capacity that was needed.  Policemen and women came from all over the country, leaving their own families to help keep out streets safe and insurance agents spent countless hours trying to sort through the endless claims.  It was an incredible sight and I am so glad I was a witness.

5.  Brad Pitt. Who wouldn’t want Brad Pitt to come to their City to rescue them?

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6.  Friendship.  You always believe you can count on your friends in your time of need, but when you actually become a recipient of so much generosity, you realize what selflessness truly means.  I received countless phone calls (when the lines were open), text messages, cards, care packages and gift cards from friends that were GENUINELY concerned for my family and I.  The generosity was incredible, overwhelming and awesome all at the same time.

The Storm brought out a new spirit of community in New Orleans and improvements are all around.  Four years later, we have a long way to go, but the struggle is completely worth it.

New Orleans,  still proud to call it home!  Thirty five years and counting…….