**I’d like to welcome my good friend, Alfonso to The Not-So-Blog! **
Hi everyone! My name is Alfonso.
I’m a stay at home dad of beautiful identical twin girls – Maya and Sabina. I would like to thank Bridgette for giving me an opportunity to share with you my experiences and advice from a dad-of-multiples’ perspective. Hopefully, my little nook on this wonderful site can be another useful and fun resource for you.
I was born and raised in New Orleans, my parents having emigrated from Guatemala, and still live in the metro area. I studied Music Education at Loyola University, and worked, until recently, in the food service industry. In fact, I believe that managing a restaurant prepared me to stay at home with the girls. It’s important to be able to think quickly on your feet, have patience with those you supervise, and to be able to adapt to your clientèle’s changing tastes! There is always bulk food preparation, a big mess when mealtime is over, and plenty of cleaning up to do.
Of course, I never expected to be a stay at home dad, but, then again, life rarely gives you what you expect. The plan was for me to go part-time and have family help out with the baby. In fact, after two visits to the OB where we heard a healthy heartbeat, my wife and I decided to look for a home renovation contractor to upgrade our kitchen and baths before the baby came. We were tempting fate. The night before our first ultrasound, we finally settled on a contractor. The next day when we saw two little babies facing each other on the screen, we knew our whole lives had changed. I saw my wife cry and laugh at the same time. I just stood there looking at the screen with my mouth hanging open. The magical experience of an ultrasound can evoke profound emotional reactions. Upon seeing that we were having twins I was filled with surprise, joy, and fear . . . then a stream of thoughts: will our insurance cover the extra expenses; ok, we have to buy two car seats; hmmm . . .one or two cribs; what kind of stroller do we need; will I be able to work part-time? Uh-oh.
After considering the cost of child-care for twins, and since we could not possibly burden family sitters with two newborns, I was to become a stay at home dad of twins. My wife, thankfully, is a pediatrician, so I knew she had any major problems covered. The expectation of this new career was not unlike being hired for a job that you’re not quite sure you’re qualified for, but want desperately to succeed in. I subsequently got to work on preparing for my new terrifying, wonderful life.
My brother and I are Bert and Ernie about most things in life, but one thing we do have in common is the love of researching the heck out of any major purchase. I hope, in Papi’s picks, that I can share my knowledge of what works well (and not so well) from a guy’s/husband’s/father’s point of view. Thanks again to Bridgette, and I look forward to hearing from y’all!